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Take back control of your time in 3 simple steps

Take back control of your time in 3 simple steps

“It’s just not fair. There’s always too much to do. Everyone just keeps piling more work on me. I feel so helpless.”

Sound familiar? If so, you’re not alone. Many people feel like they have a crushing number of requests coming at them from every side that make them a victim to their circumstances. They see outside forces as the reason why they don’t have time to exercise, can’t leave work at a reasonable time, or generally struggle to get everything done. Occasionally situations are indeed outside your control – that recent bout with the flu, for example – but most aren’t. And even though it can feel gratifying in the short term to blame others for your situation, that attitude toward your time investment will leave you truly powerless in the long run.

When you play the victim with your time, everything around you suffers. You’re constantly on edge in your interactions with others because you fear that they’ll pile yet one more thing on your already heavy load. Because you don’t believe you can ever say “no,” your “yes” comes out of a place of obligation and resentment, not wholehearted commitment. You don’t attempt to plan or work more efficiently, because you believe that you will have to work all the time, no matter what. You eventually stop trying because you believe that no matter how hard you try, you’ll fail.

Individuals often have a much greater ability to influence their situation than they realize. But the breakthrough happens only when they start exerting their personal power instead of waiting for something around them to change. It’s similar to when people in debt blame credit card companies instead of accepting that they had a choice in spending more money than they had.

Here are three practical steps to break out of the victim mindset and take back control of your time:

+ OBSERVE YOUR REACTION. Become aware of how you respond when your time investment becomes misaligned with your priorities. Do you always look for someone to blame? “My boss always gives me too much to do.” Do you pity yourself? “Poor me, yet another stressful day. I’ll get some ice cream to make myself feel better.” Do you reject advice or suggestions? “How dare my wife suggest I could work differently to get home earlier? That’s just not possible.” Do you ever say no to a new project? Do you ever set boundaries? Do you ever ask for support?

+ RECOGNIZE YOUR ROLE. Understand that you are the decision-maker when it comes to investing your time. There are certain situations where you simply need to do what it takes to get things done for a short time. That could be when you’re approaching a major deadline, preparing for a new product launch, or drafting annual reports. But overload needn’t be the norm. It’s not everyone else’s fault if you have too much to do and you don’t communicate that to anyone else. It’s yours.

+ COMMIT TO SELF-MASTERY. Regardless of how you’ve behaved in the past, you have the opportunity to make the future different. Make a commitment to change; choose to respond to your environment instead of simply accepting whatever comes your way.

Instead of becoming a victim, take ownership of the situation and your time. That could be speaking up when you feel that someone makes an unreasonable request. Have your project list on hand when you go to meetings, so that if a new project is proposed, you can evaluate its importance in relation to your other commitments. If it doesn’t seem like there’s sufficient time for the new work, propose a discussion about priorities during the meeting or bring it up later with the appropriate parties.

Also, set clear rules and boundaries to prevent taking on too much from others. For example, if you manage staff members who tend to turn in work at the last minute with many errors, require that they turn in items earlier. That allows you to send it back to them to make corrections instead of doing them yourself because you’re on a tight deadline.

Finally, if you’re in a situation where setting better boundaries isn’t possible (such as a job where you’re on call 24/7) and you’re finding your time investment troubles unmanageable, you may need to consider whether you’re in the right job. There are some positions that will not create a sustainable lifestyle for you no matter what you try to do. It’s fine to get out.

By taking responsibility for your time investment choices, you stop wasting energy blaming others and start directing it toward a productive response toward the people and situations around you. With that focus, you can have enough time for what’s most important to you.